After 27 years of marriage; 3 kids and 3 grandkids; I divorced my husband because of incompatibility amongst a million other t hings wrong in the marriage. It had been going in a negative direction for many years; but I waited for the kids to grow up and leave before I left him. It was a choice of whether to have them witness us arguing all the time or fighting a tug-a-war between the parents for custody and dealing with any girlfriends and boyfriends between us… etc..It was torture going through the motions all those years; dealing with verbal and mental abuse; not mentioning the physical abuse early on that ended with sobriety. But the same personality still existed and it attacked from within in a different manner. I’d done all the self-sacrificing I could do after all that time; I finally had to leave.

Once I left; I felt so free like I’d never felt before. Joining groups of people at restaurants and lounges that were comforting to be around for once. I dated a few people here and there but never anyone serious. I had to give myself the chance to experience life to the extent that I’d never been before or at least hadn’t been for many, many years.

One of the things that I lacked the most in any relationships that I ever had was being with someone that shared the same interests as I did and actually equally share in the excitement about the accomplishments that I achieved. I remember always being excited about my writing, photography or any job that I was crazy about, and each and every time I would always share it with my better half. The reaction was so discerning and so opposite of what I was looking for and hoped to receive for that self-satisfaction and peacefulness within my soul that I was yearning for, that it would just throw me over the edge;into a slump….where finding my muse after that was nearly an impossibility.

I once was told that opposites attract. And now I’m wondering if that’s really true.

According to studies; opposites attract, and likes repel. When it comes to magnetism, this natural principle is axiomatic. But does it also hold true for romantic relationships?

New research suggests that when it comes to matters of the heart…well, it’s complicated.

But here’s a thought: It has been said that the happiest couples never have the same character—they just have the best understanding of their differences.

So….I just “Keep on Rollin’ With the Flow”….

Here are some samples of my photography:

And a sample of a different genre:

Stay true to oneself
and peaceful with others.
Learn the reality behind
your feelings; the longing
for acceptance.
The peace that comes
within your own heart
will guide you to the
next chapter of life.
Learn to love outside
the walls and ….
Stay true to oneself.

Valerie

Keep your eyes open for my next post for Day 9!!

Entitled:

“Thanking in the Wrong Direction”