Best friends are over rated anymore now-a-days! The idea of BFF(best friends forever) is just a Facebook; Twitter or text moment in a young person’s eyes and only can be exemplified and really proven by the long term relationship that can be endured through many many years.
Does this generation understand that when they continually proclaim BFF within conversations with each other; that they are putting themselves in a heavy duty position of accountability? Do they really think they are talking about the now or the real forever? It’s a casual acronym that is used so freely with today’s youth that it creates what is perceived as a long term friendship; similar to “until death do us part” to all it’s users..
Let’s think for a minute of the long term effects of such a statement….Forever is a very strong word to describe a relationship. And how many folks actually fulfill the expectations of that statement? There’s more to it than what meets the eye……..
Definition of “FOREVER”
1. without ever ending; eternally:
to last forever.
2. continually; incessantly; always:
He’s forever complaining.
3. an endless or seemingly endless period of time:
It took them forever to make up their minds.
4. forever and a day, eternally; always:
They pledged to love each other forever and a day.
So, with the long term effect of the ‘forever’ part of the friendship, there’s an awful lot of expectations that go along with the BFF job requirements and could be very strained at times.
But for the most part; what I’ve personally learned is that friends will come and go in your life, but more important than how long a friendship lasts, is that a good friend will love you for who you are. The way you can tell the sign of a good friend is by looking at the actions they take –big and small – that show they care.
It’s truly a commitment and also an honor to be labeled a person’s ‘best friend’ and if you truly are a ‘best friend’ wouldn’t you want it to be ‘forever’?
My best friend is a gal I’ve been friends with for over 30 years and still going strong. We’ve been through births, deaths, marriages and more. We’ve been estranged in times of turmoil but always seem to magnetically find each other again. Through thick and thin – that’s a ‘best friend forever’ (BFF) – with love!